L27 A Siblings Grief for young Adults C13R1404

UK Helpline: 0345 123 2304 | www.tcf.org.uk • Shaken — we might lose confidence and our self-esteem might be low. • Tired — it might be difficult to sleep or we may have no energy. • Lonely — We shared history and memories with our sibling. We have close friends, but our relationship with them is different. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Our relationship with our sibling was unique, and our grief will be too. We may handle our grief differently to others, including our family members. It is important to find ways to cope with the storm of feelings. Music, exercise, spending time in the fresh air or with friends, or doing activities with our hands such as crafting might help. Relaxing in some way or another can help give our minds a necessary break or alternative focus away from the stress of our grief. We also need understanding and empathy from those around us. Sometimes we cannot go to our immediate family for this support, particularly if our parents are finding things very difficult. Talking to our friends can be a good idea, but it depends on their own life experiences. They may not know how to respond to us or what to say. This means that sometimes it is worthwhile looking outside of our usual family or social circle for support, especially if we are feeling overwhelmed by our grief. Where to get help • It can be valuable to talk to other bereaved siblings. The Compassionate Friends (TCF) has a group led by people who have lost siblings. They offer support online and in person. They also run a private Facebook group. Here we can discuss our experiences with no fear or judgement. See www.tcf.org.uk/siblings • Some places of work or education have a counsellor or support system. They may also have areas where we can retreat to when we are having a hard day. • Our GP might be able to signpost us to services such as bereavement counselling.