UK Helpline: 0345 123 2304 | tcf.org.uk Being able to speak honestly about our grief in a safe, supportive environment helps many of us. We are not as alone as we might have imagined. A family member or friend who is prepared to listen as we talk about our child can help ease our pain. Particularly in the early days of our bereavement, if we give ourselves space by letting other people help, then we will gradually become stronger and more able to carry on. Speaking with other bereaved parents can also be a great help. The Compassionate Friends (TCF) organises support groups, both online and in person. There is more information about our services, all organised and led by bereaved parents, on the last pages of this leaflet. Some of us face additional issues, such as estrangement from family members, loss of friends, and perhaps difficulties with either access or new responsibilities for our grandchildren. For these and other topics, including more about coping with grief, please see the list of information leaflets at the end of the text. “Do not hurry as you walk with grief; It does not help the journey. Walk slowly, pausing often. Take time; be gentle as you walk with grief.” (Author unknown) Our surviving children If we have other children, our relationship with them and the care they need will obviously depend on their age and maturity. They too are grieving. Being bereaved of a sibling, at any age, can have a major impact. Our children need the opportunity to experience and express their feelings of grief, including sadness, anger, relief and confusion. They need support and encouragement to understand what has happened, identify their feelings, release their emotions and embrace their sibling’s memory. Young and school-aged children will continue to need our physical care. Keeping up with routines can provide a structure for them and ourselves. They will benefit from the company of others, whether they are playing a game with friends or talking with someone they trust about what has happened.
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