Childless Parents Newsletter, Winter 2021

Newsletter for Childless Parents | www.tcf.org.uk 4 Remembering Dylan Christopher November is Dylan’s birthday month, and he would be turning 38 on the 28th. Some might say, ‘no longer a child’ but when, really, does a child cease to be a mother’s child? I speak for myself, of course, and I’m sure Dylan would be rolling his eyes at this point, and saying ‘Maaa!’ But he’d be smiling too, I know that. He loved to tease me, especially when I would talk about him, his antics as a little boy, what a gorgeous baby he was. His face would turn to horrified groans when I’d start talking about his birth. Can you hear him? Maaa, puh-leeese! Popped like a cork, I’d say, laughing. It is still one of the most cherished memories I have of my child, the day he was born. I’ve always maintained, too, that his birthday was my graduation day, from woman to mother. It changed me. Dylan changed me, and taught me so many things during his time here. When I said that to him, recently, maybe a year before he died, he asked me what he’d taught me. Tolerance. Compassion for others. The importance of having a Creative Outlet, as he called it. Mostly though, my beautiful boy, my fearless adventurer, my surfer dude, taught me about Love. Thank you, Dylan my Sonshine, for all you gave me during your short life, and now I hope you’re having another adventure with the children of all the bereaved parents I’ve connected with because, through them, once again darling heart, you’ve brought me love. Loving you now as ever, and forever, Mumsie x by Maggie Pinsent