Compassion, Autumn 2021

Autumn 2021 - Compassion | www.tcf.org.uk 19 There are many different ways in which individuals express, experience, and adapt to grief. Understanding and accepting different ways of grieving lies at the heart of surviving your loss as a couple. Understanding is helpful but not absolutely necessary. Acceptance of your partner’s approach however is a necessity. If you have not reached acceptance, make it your first priority.” ― Nathalie Himmelrich, ‘Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple.’ When dealing with the pain and grief of a child’s death, take time to do the work of grief. Grieve in the way that works best for you, talk about your feelings, be gentle with yourself, and remember that this is not a path that needs to be walked alone. There are loving and caring people who are willing to be there with you. Reach out, get support, and know that only the strong know how to ask for help. Howard Winokeur, PhD, and Heidi Horsley, PsyD., TCF USA When your mind cannot find an answer, open your heart and ask for peace. Accepting Different Ways of Grieving Safina Powell We’re here in a club Without an invite No regulations As strangers unite Forced in this club Against our own will Though never alone To grapple uphill Enrolled in our club Lifetime membership No one asked to join We’re all ill equipped A club to assist Compassionately We find fortitude Through true empathy The Club