Compassion, Spring 2021

Spring 2021 - Compassion | www.tcf.org.uk 20 Giving voice to my grief, my thoughts and fears In the first year after losing our son, Liam, I think I coped, or pretended to, by keeping super busy, at work or with charity fundraising in his memory. A year on, with the horror of an inquest approaching, I hit a wall and my wife suggested I should perhaps use writing to give a voice to my grief, my thoughts and fears. I love to write anyway, but it is primarily about football and barring silly comedic rhymes, certainly not poetry. However, most of this writing therapy did take the form of poetry or open letters to an unknown audience, and certainly one going through similar pain and anguish. I think I have over 20 so far and here are two of them. I hope in some small way they resonate and help a little ... Dave Seager The Answer is there are no Answers Do I want to recover from his loss? Do I want things to be as they were before? No and No Grieving is not a condition with a cure I don’t want to recover I don’t ever want to lose the love in my heart The answer is there are no answers No reboot; switch off, switch on and restart I don’t want to stop loving my son I don’t want our journey to end The answer is there are no answers Just stay in the heart I can’t mend