Compassion Spring 2022

Spring 2022 - Compassion | www.tcf.org.uk 5 version is printed in this edition. I think it’s important that we all understand what can influence our thoughts and feelings when the worst happens, when our child, grandchild or sibling dies. Another thing I’ve learned and am still trying to do is to live day by day and not face the whole year or even the week ahead all in one go. Writing a list definitely helps too: 1. Live one day at a time, don’t try to imagine the whole year ahead 2. Look after myself, remember to eat, and go for a walk each day 3. Don’t beat myself up. Laugh at myself when things don’t quite go as they should 4. Put aside time to remember Robin and Nikki and know that tears are healing 5. Celebrate a good day when it comes and don’t feel guilty 6. Share my story with Compassionate Friends and listen to theirs. Sharing is healing 7. Be aware that other members of my family may grieve in different ways and at different times and that’s ok 8. Pat myself on the back when I succeed And of course, TCF is always there for us. During this pandemic, when we haven’t been able to hold face to face meetings and retreats, the programme our wonderful CEO, Carolyn Brice, and staff have put together on-line has been and continues to be truly amazing and extremely helpful. Do go on to our website at tcf.org.uk to find out what is there for you. And above all, be gentle with yourself, be kind to yourself and know that you are not alone. With my love to you all, Gina Claye, Nikki and Robin’s mum