21 tcf.org.uk COMPASSION | BOOK REVIEWS This 260-page book is an illustration of the desire of countless bereaved parents to preserve and honour the memories of their dead child. Richard Sutcliffe, with a chapter from his wife Swee, tells the story of how they came to adopt 8-year-old Mac. He lived with them for 8 years until his untimely death. He was killed on his motorcycle in an accident in which he was completely blameless. Finding Mac is a book almost entirely about his adoption and his life from small boy at that time to towering teenager at the end. It was not a straightforward journey for him or his parents who had already experienced the “bereavement” of being unable to have a child of their own. They are honest about Mac’s struggles such as his need to change school because of problems that arose. That is only one side of the coin; the other is the story of how Mac grew into a fine young man. There is a lot in the way of small details here. For example, more than a tenth of the book is taken up with what happened where and when on family holidays and on Mac’s trip to Uganda. It is such detail that brings Mac’s story to life. Again and again, they show us the huge and growing love Richard and Swee felt and showed for their son. It is a heartwarming and compelling read. When this reviewer sat down intending to read through the first chapter he found that he went on to read the whole book in less than 24 hours! There are no doubt countless books on adoption but far fewer about adopted children dying too young. Although Mac’s death and what followed are not really mentioned until near the end of the book they are somehow present throughout, as a dark cloud getting ever nearer. The words of the subtitle “A Journey of adoption, love and loss” sum it all up very well and part of its message that love is never wasted will help and comfort many. Do bereaved parents who adopt grieve as much for their children as much as biological parents? Of course they do. Finding Mac: A Journey of adoption, love and loss by The Reverend Richard Sutcliffe reviewed by Henry Whyte Mary Hartley, TCF’s volunteer librarian, can be contacted at library@tcf.org.uk
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