Compassion, Winter 2020

Winter 2020 - Compassion | www.tcf.org.uk 5 5. Put aside time to remember Nikki and Robin and remember that tears are healing 6. Celebrate a good day or even a good few minutes when they come and don’t feel guilty 7. Share my story with my Compassionate Friends and listen to theirs. Sharing is healing 8. Be aware that other members of my family may grieve in different ways and at different times and that’s ok 9. Pat myself on the back when I succeed - and pour myself a glass of wine… or have another cup of tea Dear Friends, whatever this coming year brings, remember that TCF is always there for you. If you’re under two years bereaved you could request a grief companion, someone whom you can share your thoughts and feelings with. There are private specialist facebook groups, online support groups, and talks to help you. Do go to our website at tcf.org.uk to find out how to access all the different kinds of help available. And remember our Helpline is open over Christmas. If you need help ring 0345 123 2304 . Hopefully at some point in the coming year we’ll be able to have face to face groups and our weekend gatherings again. One last thing. I also find it helpful to make a list of things to do each day. It gives a much needed structure to my day. If you write one too, remember to put Eat Chocolate at the top. That way you’ll get at least one thing done! My love to you all, Gina Claye, Nikki and Robin’s mum New Year’s Wish I wish you gentle days and quiet nights. I wish you good memories to keep you strong. I wish you time to smile and time for song ….. And then, I wish you friends to give you love, When you are hurt and lost and life is blind. I wish you friends, and love and peace of mind. Sascha