Compassion Magazine Winter 2022

Winter 2022 - Compassion | www.tcf.org.uk 28 It really isn't worth getting upset about these things. People need educating, yes of course. That is why the work we do here at The Compassionate Friends is so important. We can inform people but of course what they do with that information is really a matter for them. As for us, the bereaved? Well we have enough to cope with without worrying about some Victorian traditions and how people apply them to us in our fractured world. Breathe, and shrug your shoulders. Above all, hold on. We are all in this together and we will get through it together. The TCF Facebook groups and Forum are good places for support and the Helpline stays open even on Christmas Day, thanks to the dedication and commitment of our army of volunteers. If you need us, we are here for you. Lastly, and most importantly, find some space for you. Allow yourself to lean into the grief , the missing and the longing for your child. Honour them and keep them close. We don't need to pretend. Who are we pretending for? The memories of Christmas past may sustain you in Christmas present. Let them come crashing in and allow yourself a smile remembering those happy times. We need them. One moment, one breath, one memory at a time… by Maria Ahern, James’ mum With every struggle there is a story to be told; it will touch the ear of another. Pamela Hagens, TCF Nashville