UK Helpline: 0345 123 2304 | tcf.org.uk Finding support in a crisis Telling our story It can be valuable to put into words what in particular is causing us to feel overwhelmed. If we cannot find the words, we might express ourselves creatively through such media as paint, clay or music. Telling someone else is one way of facing our thoughts in a safe and orderly way. In a conversation, there is a beginning and an ending. Often simply the process of telling helps to create order in our thoughts. Of course, we need to choose carefully who we open up to in this way. Not all friends or family members are good listeners. We might find speaking with other bereaved parents, such as in a TCF support group, gives us a much-needed outlet. Some of us have found it helpful to explore our deepest concerns with a counsellor. A counsellor is a professional, trained to listen, and we will not have to worry about the impact our words are having on them. On the other hand, not every counsellor is as skilful or empathetic to our situation, particularly if they have no experience of child bereavement. Still, this is something we might want to consider if our grief feels unmanageable, as they can provide us with tools to help ourselves. There are other support services available, including helplines detailed below. If we’re having a particularly bad moment, we might need immediate support. There are many helplines available, including: • The Compassionate Friends - 0345 123 2304 calls are always answered by a bereaved parent • Samaritans - 116 123 call free any time of the day or night • Cruse Bereavement Support - 0808 808 1677
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