Grieving the Death of Our Child During the Coronavirus Pandemic

One of a series of leaflets published by The Compassionate Friends Finding an outlet for our thoughts and feelings will help. Reaching out to close friends or family members by phone, WhatsApp, FaceTime or other digital means is not as good as having them in the same room with us, but can be much better than nothing. We may need to ask friends and family to check in with us on occasion. Facing the pain of grief. We need to talk about our child’s life and the circumstances of their death. There are good memories to be shared, although at first the pain of their passing, the devastation of unfulfilled dreams and shattered hopes may fill our thoughts. Speaking with other bereaved parents, either individually, or in a support group, can be very helpful in this regard. It really helps to know that however dreadful this situation is, we do not have to suffer on our own. The Compassionate Friends (TCF) have a helpline you can call: 0345 123 2304. The trained volunteers who answer the phone are all bereaved parents who are here to listen. The line is open daily from 10am – 4pm and 7pm – 10pm . It is operational during the lockdown. TCF also runs regular local and national support groups. At the moment, many of these are being organised online. There are specialist support groups for those bereaved in a particular way which are taking place virtually. We also have a private internet forum and Facebook groups which welcome new members. (Please see the back page for our contact details and website.) Writing can be a useful and creative outlet for our conflicting and confusing emotions; a safe way of expressing ourselves. It does not matter whether we share our writings or they remain private. Physical exercise, although perhaps limited during the current restrictions, can also be a safe outlet for painful emotions. It can provide focus and control, even if only while we are doing it. Gentle exercise such as yoga can be meditative and aid relaxation, whilst vigorous exercise can be a way to process anger and leave