One of a series of leaflets published by The Compassionate Friends child is physically not here, and it can be upsetting to feel pressure from others to believe a certain way about why this has happened or where their child is now. Of course, some parents do find great comfort in religion, but others struggle with their faith following a death. Those who have no religion are also likely to find such comments offensive. Further Suggestions Helping in practical ways “Many friends offered to bring food to be shared after the funeral - and I said ‘yes’ to all of them - I was so grateful. Then one friend said to me ‘who is bringing something? - and I looked at her absolutely blank - I had no idea. She took over the organisation and we were so grateful!” There are many practical ways in which you can support and help a bereaved household. • Prepared food is almost always welcome dishes that are ready to eat or just need warming. • Offer to do the shopping or to accompany them – and be ready to come home early if you see that they are finding it too difficult. • It may be less stressful for them to go to a supermarket out of their locality. In this way, they will see fewer people they know. • Be aware that the process of shopping can awaken painful memories, for example of favourite foods or disliked items. • If they are responsible for the care of elderly or disabled family members, offering them a few hours of respite could be a great kindness.
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