My child has died. How do I talk about my grief?

10 If you have a partner or spouse People grieve differently. If you have a partner, you may each grieve in different ways at different times. • One of you may be weepy and emotional, while the other is silent, keeping it all inside. • One of you might stop doing many of your usual things, while the other may want to keep busy. • One of you may want to put up pictures, visit the grave and focus on memories of your precious child, while the other may not want to talk about them because it hurts too much. You could find that you are both in too much pain to help each other. At times, you or your partner might find you blame yourselves or each other for not being able to keep your child well or safe from harm. Your love life may suffer, with sex or pleasure somehow seeming wrong. You may each feel a bit differently about this. My partner is the step-parent of our child. They seemed so calm, which really upset me because I wondered if they were even grieving. We started drifting apart until we sat down and talked it through. We both understand each other better now.