My child has died. How do I talk about my grief?

11 For more information about coping with grief as a couple, see tcf.org.uk/grievingparents and tcf.org.uk/blendedandstepfamilies Grief can be an emotional see-saw – when one is up, the other is down. Still, if you can allow for each other’s darker moods, you can make it through. You might both need to have times to grieve alone, as well as together. You may find it helps to talk openly and honestly about your feelings with your partner. Trying to understand how you are each coping is a good way forward.