My child has died. How do I talk about my grief?

13 Parents have told us... Take extra care around family get-togethers. The pain each member of the family feels can become even deeper when everyone is together in the same room and your child is missing. I try to have patience with them. I don’t call them unless I’m in the right head-space. I had to break off contact with my aunt for a while for the sake of my own mental health. Everything she said and did upset me so much. I’ve found it is worthwhile being honest with my relatives. Letting them know what they’re doing or saying that isn’t helping has been a way forward, although not all have responded. They’ve been through so much in their own lives that they expect me to get on with things. I’ve tried to explain that talking about my grief and expressing my feelings is helping me. They still don’t really understand, but at least they’re not criticising me as much. I needed more from [my parents] than they could manage. I had to seek nurturing support elsewhere.