My child has died. How do I talk about my grief?

7 Some ideas for coping if people don’t talk about your child When people avoid mentioning your child, you might find that you want to mention them, to say their name. If your child was alive, you’d talk about them. They are still living in you and in your memories. Why not talk about them now? Not everyone will respond well to this. But on the other hand, some people will feel more confident that it’s okay to mention them if you do this first. Remember, there is no requirement for you to do this. It is entirely up to you what, where and when you talk about your child. When I go out with friends for a meal, I often mention in passing something about what my child might have chosen from the menu. My friends have become used to it and will even add their own memories. I sign my child’s name on Christmas cards – ‘And remembering P’ – because they are still a part of my family. I love it when people do the same in return!