One of a series of leaflets published by The Compassionate Friends Looking after yourself Although you may not feel like it, you do need to take care of yourself. Here are a few ideas to consider. • Lost appetite? Smaller meals or snacks may feel more manageable than a full meal, and can still provide necessary nutrition • No energy? Perhaps try getting outside for at least a few minutes in the fresh air • Don’t know what to do next? It can help to start a routine, even if it is simply leaving the house daily to get a newspaper or walk the dog • Physically exhausted? This is normal; the extreme emotions of grief are very tiring and can wear us out. You need to give yourself time to recover • Can’t sleep? The exhaustion of grief can be due to lack of sleep. Getting fresh air during the day and unwinding before bed might help, but if you continue to find yourself unable to get enough sleep, perhaps visit your GP for advice • Not ready to socialise? Try not to feel pressed into doing anything you do not feel is helpful. It is okay to refuse invitations or leave early if you are not feeling up to an event • Can’t manage? Friends or family might not realise you need help. It doesn’t hurt to ask for help with specific tasks. Accepting help can give you the time and space you need to get back on your feet • Don’t understand why you feel the way you do? Books written by other bereaved parents or on the subjects of death and bereavement can be a significant source of help and comfort. The Compassionate Friends (TCF) has a library of such books to borrow There is no right or wrong way to grieve, nor a right or wrong way to continue on your life’s path. You can only do what feels right for you at the time.
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