The Police and Bereaved Parents

UK Helpline: 0345 123 2304 | www.tcf.org.uk • Write down any information or details you are giving the parents. Despite the fact that nearly all parents vividly recall the emotional response of the police officer, and perhaps remembering verbatim what was said at the time, their memory of practical points may be hazy or missed altogether. • Offer parents a little time on their own after you have told them, although some may welcome your presence and practical support – maybe a cup of tea or coffee. • Try to ensure that a parent is not left alone when you leave the house unless they specifically request this. • Ask if there is anyone you can contact for them – relatives, doctor, minister of religion, or friends. • Other children in the family need consideration. If parents feel unable to collect children from school, they may need help arranging for someone else to do so. Telephone the school, a friend or relative and arrange for the children to be brought home without telling them that their brother or sister has died. • If you are attending the home following a sudden infant death (SIDS), visit the baby’s bedroom sensitively. Unless you have a very sound reason, do not separate the parents. Explain that you are acting for the Coroner (or, in Scotland, the Procurator Fiscal), to complete the necessary enquiries.