The Police and Bereaved Parents

One of a series of leaflets published by The Compassionate Friends not wish to receive them back. Respect informed choice and do not rush this process; give them time if they need it. • Always try to give parents notification that belongings are to be returned. Be mindful of the language you use: ‘belongings’ may be preferable to ‘exhibits’ or ‘personal effects’. Items should be returned in a suitable bag or box; never put them into a plastic rubbish bag. A cushion of kindness Parents will experience intense and devastating pain at the news of their child’s death. This pain may be prolonged and intensified if their child has died following substance use, through suicide, or through involvement in criminal or gang activities. Such circumstances often bring stigma and criticism, both within families and on social or mainstream media. You cannot prevent this, but you can provide an initial cushion of compassion, care and concern. This will be a great support to the parents at this most difficult time. While you are with them, give the parents all of your attention and as much time as you can. The manner in which parents are informed of the tragedy of their child’s death has an important and lasting impact on how they go on to manage their grief. Concern and care are remembered with the utmost appreciation. Thank you for taking the time to read this leaflet. We appreciate all that you can do to support the bereaved parents you encounter. Your kindness gives us a safe space in which to begin coping with our grief and to keepmoving onwards with our lives.