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Summer 2018 publications - now out

The Compassionate Friends supportive magazine for bereaved parents - Compassion - is now out. Written by bereaved parents, for bereaved parents, the magazine is mailed to all donating members of our charity, together with our charity newsletter - TCF News.

If you are not already a donating member, and would like to join our charity and receive copies of our supportive publications, we would love to have you. You can join us with a yearly, bi-annual or monthly donation - helping us to reach out and support more bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents now and in the future. We really would like to develop and grow our support and your membership donation will really help us do this.

You can join here: www.tcf.org.uk/join.

Thank you so much for your support.

Memorial garden unveiled at Scottish Gathering

The Compassionate Friends Garden in Perth, Scotland was unveiled at the recent Scottish Gathering - a supportive weekend for bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents. All at The Compassionate Friends are so grateful to Beautiful Perth for providing us a wonderfully tranquil and stunning garden to remember our precious sons and daughters. If you do go to Perth please take a visit - it is a lovely, really special place.

Read more and see pictures of The Compassionate Friends garden in Perth.

The whole weekend in Perth in April was about hope, warmth and togetherness. Two recently bereaved parents commented:

“Just a wee note as I’m now home, to say thanks again from the bottom of my heart for this weekend. The hard work that has gone into giving us all that amazing time is incredible. The little touches and the warm words made the weekend something I will never forget. “

“We really appreciate from everyone all the friendship, support and for us hope, that we will find our path on this journey like no other. The different tips and ideas from so many on what worked for them will be so helpful.”

View a slide show of the Scottish Gathering here.

Date for your diary: The next Scottish Gathering will be from 3-5 May 2019. More details to follow.

"I couldn’t imagine feeling joy like I feel today..."

Adelle Brenner ran the London Marathon 2018 on 22 April in memory of her daughter, Celia and to fundraise for The Compassionate Friends. Here, Adelle writes movingly the day after about her inspirational run in the hottest Marathon ever in London and what it meant to her.

"What a day. Running the London Marathon for The Compassionate Friends was such an honour. Thank you from the bottom of my heart to all of you who have supported me and TCF in memory of your children. Your love and kind words helped me carry on when I doubted myself.

The hottest London marathon on record after training in the coldest winter was awesome and awful in almost equal measure but I’m hugely proud that I finished it. I had to stop for a cry and a few jelly babies at mile 17 and was looked after by a lovely medic but I carried on and finished in 5 hrs 59 minutes.

For a long time after we lost our daughter Celia at 3 years old, nearly 7 years ago, I couldn’t imagine feeling joy like I feel today. My world was turned upside down when she died suddenly in an accident. I questioned everything I had believed in. My assumptions of a future watching my children grow up healthy and happy as I grew older proved to be wrong. The confident, positive person I had been was lost too.

"I did the unthinkable..." Overnight retreat for bereaved siblings

"I did the unthinkable... I walked into a room full of strangers and left with lots of hugs and tears and great memories. Thank you so much for the retreat, I didn't realise how much I needed it" (S)

The weekend of 21/22 April saw 30 bereaved siblings gather together for The Compassionate Friends overnight retreat at Woodbrooke in Birmingham. We have had lots of wonderful feedback from the bereaved brothers and sisters who came to the retreat to be together, share their stories and find understanding and hope after the loss of sibling early in life. Often called 'the forgotten mourners', this weekend was a unique opportunity for these bereaved siblings to find support and speak with others who have experienced a similar traumatic loss.
We are hugely grateful to the Big Lottery Fund for funding the weekend and to the volunteers - bereaved siblings themselves - for organising this special supportive event.

Here's just some of the feedback we have received from the siblings that attended:

" This weekend has changed me as a person. I’ve met some of the bravest and most inspiring people I’ll ever meet. The people who understand the pain and heartbreak of losing a sibling, who are there to listen as well as share their sibling’s stories. These people I hope to continue to call friends. I can’t explain how amazing it is to talk to other people who have been through the same experience and won’t judge you because they understand everything you are saying". (G)

"If you've not been to one of these events, please go, you won't regret it".

View our short video where parents talk about their experience at the March 2018 supportive weekend for parents in early bereavement.

Bryan and Patsy lost their daughter and only child, Evie, just a few weeks ago Bryan has allowed us to share with you his thoughts about the TCF supportive weekend for newly bereaved parents at Willersley Castle in Derbyshire from 23-25 March 2018...

"Patsy and I have just got back from the Compassionate Friends Retreat in Derbyshire. Whilst this is a club that none of us want to join, being around people that understand, being able to talk openly and frankly about your child without people looking away, and just being able to cry without fear of judgement has been immensely liberating. Evie died just two months ago from a massive brain tumour and the pain is incredibly raw. But ..... after 2 1/2 days of discussions and openness we feel empowered to take on the future. Knowing that we aren't alone, knowing that we have new friends who WILL listen, knowing that it is just a few short months until we can go to another event such as this has given us the strength to get up tomorrow and tackle the future head on. It's not a future that we want, and the pain is still fresh and excruciating, but it is a pain that we can beat, thanks to a charity set up

specifically for people like us. Thank you to 'Compassionate Friends' for being there, for being a shoulder, for creating the type of environment to draw together like-minded people. Our daughter was a beautiful human being, intelligent, creative and caring. We owe it to her to carry on, to preserve her memory and to honour her. If you've not been to one of these events, please go, you won't regret it".

Jimmy Edmonds of The Good Grief Project is a TCF volunteer. Here he shares his thoughts about the group for bereaved dad's he led during the weekend.

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