Suggested reading list
Our librarian, Mary Hartley has put together the suggested reading list below – her personal ‘picks’ of helpful and supportive books.
All these books can be borrowed from our Postal library.
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Aspects of Loss by Gill Hartley (Gill is not a relation although she is now a friend. This is an excellent book for all bereaved parents.)
One Step at a Time - Mourning a Child by Betty Madill
A Mother’s Grief 30 Years On by Betty Madill
The Bereaved Parent by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
Knowing Why Changes Nothing by Eva Lager with Sasha Wagner
A mixture of prose and poetry by two mothers who lost children. Eva’s daughter died by suicide.
Always with You by Gloria Hunniford
Her second book.
A Heartbeat Away by Flappy Lane Fox
The Death of a Child edited by Peter Stanford
Our children; an anthology of the experiences of bereaved parents whose children have died at different ages and from various causes.
BOOKS TO HELP AFTER A SUICIDE
Suicide survivors, A guide for those left behind by Adina Wrobleski
Adina’s daughter died by suicide
Suicide: Why? 85 questions and answers about suicide by Adina Wrobleski
Suicide of a Child by Adina Wrobleski
Losing a Child, Explorations in Grief
Linda’s daughter died by suicide but this book is helpful for all parents, it’s full of good advice
My Son, My Son: A guide to healing after death, loss or suicide by Iris Bolton with Corin Michell
Searching for my Estrella Maili - Rebuilding my life after the death of my daughter by Gisela Castillo de Lujan
Do They Have Bad Days in Heaven? Surviving the suicide loss of a sibling by Michelle Linn-Gust.
His Bright Light by Danielle Steel
This is a non-fiction book about the author’s son who suffered from bi-polar disease and died from suicide.
BOOKS FOR SIBLINGS
Surviving a Sibling: Discovering Life after Loss by Scott Masterley
Letters to Sara: the agony of adult sibling loss by Anne McCurry
The Last Act of Love: the story of my brother and his sister by Cathy Rentzenbrink
This is quite a new book and is about the best book written by a sibling I’ve seen.
BOOKS FOR CHILDREN
I Miss my Sister by Sarah Courtauld and Holly Surplice
The Sad Book by Michael Rosen
Many adults also find this book really helpful.
Water Bugs and Dragonflies by Doris Stickney
BOOKS FOR GRANDPARENTS
When a Grandchild Dies: What to do, what to say, how to cope by Nadine Galinsky
Grandparents Cry Twice: help for bereaved grandparents by Mary Lou Reed
BOOKS TO HELP AFTER A MURDER
A Song for Jenny: A mother’s story of love and loss by Julie Nicholson
This beautiful young girl died in the 7/7 attacks. There’ll be a DVD of her story available soon.
For the Love of Julie by Ann Ming
An Ordinary Murder by Lesley Moorhead
Tim, an Ordinary Boy by Colin and Wendy Parry
Goodbye Dearest Holly by Kevin Wells
Although the Soham murders were horrific Holly’s dad is basically a positive person and I came away from this book with the feeling that his family had been neither defeated nor destroyed by the man who’d taken their daughter and sister from them.
BOOKS OF HOPE
When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner
Kushner is a rabbi whose son died at the age of 14 from a premature ageing disease. He uses his knowledge of theology to try to understand why God would do such a thing to him. It’s one of the most popular books in our library.
On Life After Death by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
A doctor whose work with sick and dying children made her certain life continues after physical death.
The Truth In The Light: an investigation of over 300 near death experiences by Peter Fenwick and Elizabeth Fenwick
As a nurse I’ve been interested in the phenomenon of near death experiences since the 1970s. There have been tens of thousands of reports of these experiences and, although people might disagree about what causes them, they most definitely are happening. Personally I’ve also looked after hundreds of dying people and am also convinced death isn’t the end. The Fenwicks’ book is one of the best on the subject.
Raymond Moody has written quite a few books on this subject, including Life after Life with Elizabeth Kubler Ross.
Don’t Let Them Tell You How to Grieve by Gina Clay
The Swallow, the Owl and the Sandpiper: Words of courage, wisdom and spirit compiled by Claire Maitland
A Broken Heart Still Beats by Anne McCracken and Mary Semel
This is a compilation of poetry and prose from famous people whose children have died through the ages and I think this is my favourite book in the whole library.
The Death of a Child: Reflections for grieving parents by Elaine E Stillwell
Relative Grief by Clare Jenkins and Judy Merry
This isn’t just about the death of children, although that is included, but it’s good because there are thoughts about each death from various members of the family.
Fireflies: a father’s classic tale of love and loss by David Morell
This is an unusual book, which blends fact and fiction, but the feedback is always very good from readers and I really like it too.
Kadian Journal by Thomas Harding
A father’s journal following the sudden death of his young son.
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